30 First Message Ideas to Find a Real Relationship

Why "Hey" Gets Ignored

People are busy and flooded with messages. A low‑effort "hey" or "how are you" doesn't give them anything to grab onto. Good first messages:

• Show you actually looked at their profile.
• Give them an easy, low‑pressure way to reply.
• Sound like a real human, not a copy‑paste bot.

Simple First Messages You Can Copy

Profile‑based openers:

• "I see you love hiking. What's your favorite place you've been so far?"
• "You mentioned you cook. What's your go‑to dish when you want to impress someone?"
• "That travel photo looks amazing. If we could go anywhere this weekend, where would you pick?"

Easy "this or that" questions:

• "Quick question: beach sunset or city rooftop night?"
• "Tea person or coffee person?"
• "Movie night in or dinner out for a first date?"

Funny & Playful Openers

Use humor carefully and keep it light, not rude.

• "Serious question: pineapple on pizza – dealbreaker or personality trait?"
• "On a scale from 1–10, how ready are you to cancel plans and order takeout?"
• "You seem fun. Should we skip the small talk or pretend to be normal for 3 messages?"

Deep & Serious Conversation Starters

If their profile sounds more serious, try something a bit deeper:

• "What's one thing you're working on improving about yourself this year?"
• "What does a healthy relationship look like to you?"
• "If you could tell your younger self one thing about dating, what would it be?"

How to Use These on Global Dating Chat

On Global Dating Chat you're not limited to just swiping – you can post in the feed and interact in country groups too. A simple approach:

• Read their profile and photos for 5–10 seconds.
• Pick one detail (travel, music, work, food) as your hook.
• Send one of the ideas above, tweaked to match that detail.
• If the vibe is good, move from fun questions to a video call or deeper chat.

Save a few of these lines in your notes, and you'll never be stuck at "hey" again—on Global Dating Chat or anywhere else.